I don’t know if my mom is doing too well.
My mother and I have always been a little distant, but the love has never gone away. The communication is sparse and meaningless. She tells me about coworkers at her job, the amount of work she did, or some news story she saw on TV. I listen but don’t care, really. I want my mom to tell me her thoughts, give me advice and say something funny or meaningful.
Of course, the generation gap between us is wide and accounts for the misunderstandings between us. Yet, we care for each other and that’s all that matters. Who cares if she can’t joke or understand her son. I’ll be okay as long she cares for my well being. I care for her just as much.
My mother doesn’t express her feelings. I’m not a good listener either. Bad combination.
Yet, my mother is going through some issues and I haven’t paid attention, or taken her seriously. This is my fault.
She feels scared, and I haven’t taken the steps necessary to get her help.
I guess I feel scared too. My sister and I think we know what’s going on and now I have to come to terms that my mom is “sick”. It’s been on the back of my mind for a while, but it’s now a family issue that has been addressed. That is, we’ve spoken to my mom for a bit and have asked her to get help. That’s a different story for a different day.
I’m accepting the new information and realize this will now impact me for the rest of my life. As I’m writing this I know I’m coming off as selfish and an asshole of a son. No, I care and love my mom very much and would do anything to keep her happy and content. I guess I’m realizing that the situation may get worse and I’m scared about it. I’m worried and anxious for the future.
We will see.