I don’t think I have many strong beliefs, or at least I don’t think I do. I remember having “spirited” debates about certain issues; Topics would include veganism, college, and the death penalty.
I realize now that these debates were very lopsided in the way that I would argue. I would attack their personality and characteristics for their belief if they argued against me. This would include constant interruption and making outlandish claims that were just too dumb to comprehend. Yet, when the argument was finished I always had a sense of accomplishment and victory. I now see it as a weakness, because I never gave the opposing viewpoint a chance. I just want to learn and be enlightened, not have to decide which way is the truth. Also, I have a tendency to only see people that live and think differently than me as wrong, or dumb.
For example, one of my buddies that I no longer hangout is a “Flat-Earther”. I think these people are trolls, or convinced themselves of a lie because of “higher authorities” who work together. Also, he is an anti-vaxxer and an emotionally wrecked guy that uses weed as a remedy. The most irritating thing was for me was that he was so stubborn to see opposing viewpoints, or think of an alternative way.
Yet, as I write these paragraphs I see myself reliving the emotions that would make me upset. His illogical thinking that would convince himself of a lifestyle that was toxic to himself would cause me to land in arguments that were never needed. My anger would get the best of me when it was not necessary.
Even now, with the very few buddies I have, I have a really hard time listening, understanding, and sympathizing with their beliefs. I’m hoping that acknowledging this would help me overcome.